Recently I was listening to some music that was so disturbing. Nothing that I haven’t heard before, yet this time the words actually penetrated my brain like they never have before. It was a few songs actually and the women were arguing back and forth about cheating men, and who he really loved and wanted to be with and etc. I thought to myself, “how often do we hear about men fighting over who is going to keep a chick that’s cheating on them?” and I became extremely aggravated and disappointed at these women and women everywhere who are finding themselves in these situations. Most of the times these men have not put a WEDDING ring on or said "I DO" to either woman, yet you’re fighting and arguing about who gets to keep his trifling behind. Why is that? You will argue with another woman about a man that supposedly loves you but is blatantly doing all kinds of wrong to you, and try your hardest to hold on to him, instead of loving yourself enough to let go and wait for better.. Or even know that you deserve better... Where is the self-esteem?
Why is it so hard for us to hate each other, and fight with each other, instead of letting him go? Is he really a prize? Is your self-worth really that low? Not to mention that all of the arguing with each other is a waste of time and energy because most of the time he's going to keep going back & forth anyway because he can. Why wouldn’t he? Who’s going to leave him? Neither one of you if you’re arguing with each other about who he loves the most or which one of you he’s in a relationship with. You usually end up wasting precious time, sanity, and energy on a situation in which you should have trashed forever ago, and lets not mention how it destroys your ability to trust, your confidence, and leaves you bitter and unattractive to the next men. It’s time to stop all of the drama & fighting between women about no good men and either accept it and shut up complaining and fighting, or decide that you deserve better and move on!!
It’s a common question on how men can be so disrespectful. They can be disrespectful because women make it ok by accepting it. Desperation and low self-esteem is not a good look. Learn your worth, what you want, what you deserve, and NEVER settle for anything else. If you don’t think that you deserve the best then you won’t get the best. So if you’re wondering why you can’t get a good man, you need to really do some self-evaluation and see if you’re a good woman. The only common denominator in all of your relationships is you. Where are your standards? What do you expect or accept? Do you really know what you want in a man, and if so are you the type of woman that he would want to date? Are you even dating men in the range of what you want? Or are you dating anyone because you just can’t stomach being alone? If you hate being alone so much, what is it about yourself that you don’t like? If you don’t enjoy your own company why should someone else?
A lot of people have been in a situation where we have loved and trusted someone that betrayed us and instead of getting mad at the person that hurt you, you got mad at the other person. It’s easier to address the other person and place the blame on them because then you have to do a self-evaluation and some real decisions that need to be made, and no one wants to do that. It’s time to stop blaming everyone else for your life and start taking responsibility and the correct measure to create the life that you want to live. It’s time to make some positive changes in your lives… So make it happen

Love,
Nikki J

Hi Everyone!!!
I want to first thank you all for visiting my blog! We are going to have a lot of fun! We will have contests, surprise give-a-ways, and more as time goes by! In this first blog, I just want to tell you a little bit about myself.
My name is Nikki J, I am an author and also the Founder and CEO of NikNak Nation Enterprise which is comprised of three businesses; AlterNIKtivz, True-Light Ministries, and NikNak Nation Publishing Company. You will find out more on True-Light Ministries and AlterNIKtivz at a later time.
I wrote and published my first book titled "The Pain in the Promise; Child Neglected, God Protected, Beauty Reflected," on June 8, 2012 and re-released it on June 28, 2012. The Pain in the Promise is my autobiography. It's my journey through the foster care system, abuse, reconnecting with my biological family, and the lessons learned through it all.
I wrote The Pain in the Promise, to be an inspiration to someone else. I want my story, my life to be an example that no matter what happens to you in life, you do not have to let your past dictate your entire life. We all endure trials in life, some trials are more horrendous than others, but nevertheless pain is pain. It’s up to each individual to decide how they will let their trials and tribulations shape them. Will you be bitter and angry forever? Or will you take it, let it make you stronger, and ask God to help you use it to help others? That's what I did.
I refused to be another statistic; bitter, in prison, on drugs, a deadbeat mom, etc. and instead decided that I am going to be a great woman of God, a true example of the Love of Christ, successful, a great friend, and a great role-model. I chose not to be a victim because then everyone who ever abused me, sought to harm me, or expected me to fail, would then be a winner over me, and I'm just too stubborn for that. Enough was taken from me and there was nothing that I could do about it. I refuse to let anyone take my life, my future, my sanity, my choices.
Please, take the time to follow the link provided and purchase "The Pain in the Promise; Child Neglected, God Protected, Beauty Reflected," you won't be disappointed!

I want to end this blog by giving some fun facts about myself:

• I am a Christian
• My birthday is June 10, and my birth stone is a pearl, which I think is a great stone! That’s why it’s a part of NikNak Nation logo. Pearls symbolize purity, innocence, and spiritual transformation along with a lot of other great meanings depending where you research!
• I was born and mostly raised in Cleveland, Ohio
• I am a freeze-baby, meaning I get cold really easily!
• I love to travel
• I loooove to eat! LOL. I am such a foodie.
• I am a Pescatarian- Which means I do not eat meat but I do eat seafood. Most people in this category mistakenly identify themselves as vegetarians, but that's a mistake. Vegetarians do not indulge in eating seafood; however they still eat animal by products such as dairy.
• I graduated from Glenville High School in Cleveland, OH in 2001!! Villllle!! LOL! (That was for all of my fellow Tarblooders!) Glenville Alumni are the best
• I have no kids, but a host of nieces, nephews, (blood related & otherwise) and two god-daughters and they are some of my biggest motivators for being great.
• I am not close with most of my biological families (relatives), but that’s ok because God has instead given me a host of “Forevers” (people that are in my life until death separates us) and friends whom have become my family over the years, and I am overprotective of anyone I consider family.
• I made a commitment to abstain from sex (celibacy) until marriage more than two years ago
• Reading, music, and writing are my top ways of relaxing.
• I made a commitment to myself to be successful, wealthy, and a good role model for not only the kids in my life, but to anyone that is looking for an example that Christ still works miracles & answers prayers.
• I have a heart for helping people, especially kids and teenagers. My desire is to help protect our children, especially those in foster care that don’t always have people looking out for them; by sharing my story with as many people as possible and raising awareness about some of the things that happens not only in foster care,but through the system that is supposed to be in place to protect them; and help come up with a better way to address these issues.
• I love to laugh, spend time with love ones, and have fun!
• 5 words to describe me: Effervescent, Visionary, Multifaceted, Enterprising, Loving

This is the end of my introduction blog! Please feel free to leave comments, questions, suggestions, etc. If you have already purchased and read The Pain in the Promise; Child Neglected, God Protected, Beauty Reflected, I would love to hear your comments!

Love,
Nikki J